Healing Perspective

Thursday, March 3, 2016

I'm moving my blog

I've decided to move my blog to wordpress. I want to be able to expand to a website and I feel wordpress would be more helpful in that.

I plan to write about different experiences I've had including abuse, PTSD, anxiety, and raising a child with ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and anxiety.

I haven't consistently written on this blog. On my new blog, I plan to write 2-3 times a week. I've accomplished that so far.

I'm hoping all of you will follow me over, especially if any of you have experienced any of these issues. I plan to publish my book in the very near future in the hopes it will help others deal with these types of issues.

My new blog is sfbatt.wordpress.com.

I hope to see you over there!

Friday, June 27, 2014

PTSD Awareness Day

Today is National PTSD Awareness Day. Those of you that have PTSD or think you may have it, I'd like to talk directly to you. There is a stigma that comes with this diagnosis especially for those that are in the military. I didn't want this stigma either. I felt because I wasn't in a war that my trauma wasn't as bad and I shouldn't complain. I didn't want to be known as someone that was weak either. Eventually, I decided that I could no longer live the way I was (living in fear, feeling chaotic, and stressed out to name a short list), I decided something better change and quick. I felt a deep depression coming on. I hated all the struggles I had on a day to day basis and if this was the best I was going to get I didn't think I could endure too much more of it.

The first step was praying. I prayed for answers out of this hell. I didn't have the money for therapy and I again didn't want anyone to know or to be labeled with a mental health stigma. I've dealt with a lot in my lifetime and I couldn't understand why I could no longer deal with things. Prayer helped me to find answers here and there and I worked my way out of my hell. This may not work for everyone. I spent years and years studying human behavior so I was able to correct those issues first but I still needed help in dealing with the symptoms of PTSD like, triggered incidences, severe anxiety, and chaos.

Now I'm able to manage my symptoms of PTSD. What I realized was that the fear surrounding the stigma boils down to that we are afraid of what others will think and/or if we admit we have a problem then that could mean we are weak or broken. We fear that we'll be perceived as incompetent, weak, and mentally not right. That fear of what others think including what we think is what is holding us back from healing. We fear that if we are broken that we can't be fixed. We aren't broken. We simply need knowledge and tools. I read a study. In this study, it suggests that those that have had trauma in their childhood is more likely to develop PTSD. If we've endured several things that were traumatic it's my belief that we weren't taught the right tools to keep from developing PTSD. It's not our fault and we aren't too weak. We are strong. We just need that knowledge and few tools. Therapist can help. We need to stop worrying about things like what others think or what we will be labeled as because getting well is what is really important.

Another reason we may not seek help is that it doesn't truly make sense in our mind. (This is for those less severe cases.) We feel fine in a lot of areas. We feel strong. We feel intelligent except when the symptoms rear their ugly head. Then the symptoms betray our true selves confusing us making us feel that we aren't strong. If we can deal with the symptoms and behavioral issues we will not be ruled by PTSD.

PTSD isn't a disorder that has anything to do with intelligence, weakness, or the like. It's more like having a brand new shiny car and with every life experience a "ding" here or a "gummed up engine with dirty oil" there. If you don't use proper tools and maintenance eventually it will not work at it's peak performance.

What I pray for now is that my book will be published one day to reach those of you that have had trauma in their lives. I've been there and know the struggles you go through. But until then, seek out knowledge and answers for the help you need. Your life is more important than what others think.

Thursday, June 26, 2014


This reveal is so exciting for me because Alexis Bass is one of my amazing critique partners. She is the first in our group to be published and her book is coming out on December 31 of this year! This story is truly one of the best stories I've read in a long time.

Here it is...

Here is the blurb:

If you want more, you have to give less.
That’s the secret to dating in high school. By giving as little as they expect to get in return, seventeen-year-old Aubrey Housing and her three best friends have made it to the second semester of their senior year heartbreak-free. And it’s all thanks to a few simple rules: don’t commit, don’t be needy, and don’t give away your heart.
So when smoking-hot Nathan Diggs transfers to Lincoln High, it shouldn't be a big deal. At least that’s what Aubrey tells herself. But Nathan’s new-boy charm, his kindness, and his disarming honesty throw Aubrey off her game and put her in danger of breaking the most important rule of all: Don’t fall in love.


Enter to win Alexis' giveaway of $50 to a book retailer of your choice by following this link: a Rafflecopter giveaway

A little about Alexis:

Alexis Bass grew up in Washington, went to college in Arizona, and spent her early twenties in Seattle. She currently lives in Northern California with Dylan McKay, her gorgeous and rambunctious golden retriever. She loves good fashion and good TV as much as a good book, and is a huge advocate of the three C’s: coffee, chocolate, and cheese. LOVE AND OTHER THEORIES is her first novel. Visit her at www.alexisbassbooks.com or on Twitter@alexisbasswrite

LOVE AND OTHER THEORIES is available for pre-order:
Barnes & Noble

Congrats Alexis!! This is so awesome!!!!

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

What Memorial Day means to me.

It's suppose to be a day to honor all those that have died for this country. The ones that gave all and sacrificed his/her life for the freedom of this country.

Some honor veterans that are still alive. This isn't their day and for most feel very uncomfortable being honored on the same day as our fallen hero's. Veteran's Day is in November. That is when we show our appreciation for their service.

I'd like to take Memorial Day a step further and honor all those that have lost a loved one at war. Family and friends of our fallen hero's still have to find a way to move forward without them. They have a bigger stake in the day. They are at the cemeteries putting flowers on the graves. They are the ones that hold their memories. They feel the loss the most.

Maybe I dare to take it one step further and have a minute of silence for those that were there when the fallen hero's death occurred. They endured the same experience but were spared. They may live with survivor's guilt and struggle with it every day. This includes those that have killed their own by accident in a heated battle and chaos of war. Living with these traumatic experiences can alter and devastate so many lives.

I hope and pray for all of those people that have lost one of these American hero's that they find peace in their lives. My wish for them is to wade through any devastation their hero's death may have caused and learn to live life to the fullest with peace and joy which honors them in the best possible way.

I honor you!

Wednesday, April 30, 2014


Live your life with zest. Give it all you got and don't let fear or day-to-day tasks get in the way. Life is short and we don't get do-overs. If you have children, love them while they are at home even if they make it difficult. If you have a significant other, love them and take care of them as much as you can. People are the most important thing in our lives and showing them love is a great way to build relationships that sustain us through trying times.

Thank you for reading my posts!

Tuesday, April 29, 2014


Say yes to something you want to try but are too afraid to do it. I recently did this and I had an amazing, fun time that plastered a smile on my face. We all have opportunities to do something we want but fear of some sort holds us back. Every once in a while say, "yes." You might experience something so worth while that could change your life.

Monday, April 28, 2014


Xanadu is described as a place of great beauty, luxury, and contentment. I think we would all love to go there but life doesn't always work out like that. But there is a way to visit and reduce stress and that's by closing your eyes and envisioning whatever your Xanadu is. Slowly breathe in deeply through your nose, pause, and slowly pushing the air out through your mouth. Go into details of what your Xanadu looks like. Who is there with you? What does it look like? What is the temperature and weather like?

How did it feel?